Have you ever taken a moment to think about how different ways of approaching people lead to different results? Asertivity is a form of behaviour in which the persoin is not agressive nor they give in to other people's will. Instead, the assertive person expresses their ideas and fights for their rights respectfuly, without intention to hurt or cause damage.
Behaving in this manner, you are more likely to obtain a better response from others. If you picture a situation where someone at work is imposing you something that, let' say, you don't have time to do. There are several ways to react.
You could say "No way! Leave me alone!", so the other person can either respond angrily or just walk away intimidated (I don't think any of them is a good result).
You can also just say nothing and do what you're told, in which case you'd most likely be in trouble, as you may have to leave some of your own work undone, and to be honest, nobody likes to feel they are being pushed over.
But there is a third and more interesting solution, where you don't do what you're told, but you explain the situation as it is, and therefore the other person can see the impossibility of what they're asking. For example you could say: "I'm sorry, but it's going to be impossible for me to do it, as I am enroled in another project for this afternoon and I am going to be busy with it all day".
The other person may get annoyed, if their sense of empathy is not very developed, but still, you have been able to explain why you can't do it, so you don't have any responsibility over the other person's reactions.
Learning to be assertive will certainly make your relationship with other a lot easier.
Behaving in this manner, you are more likely to obtain a better response from others. If you picture a situation where someone at work is imposing you something that, let' say, you don't have time to do. There are several ways to react.
You could say "No way! Leave me alone!", so the other person can either respond angrily or just walk away intimidated (I don't think any of them is a good result).
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You can also just say nothing and do what you're told, in which case you'd most likely be in trouble, as you may have to leave some of your own work undone, and to be honest, nobody likes to feel they are being pushed over.
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But there is a third and more interesting solution, where you don't do what you're told, but you explain the situation as it is, and therefore the other person can see the impossibility of what they're asking. For example you could say: "I'm sorry, but it's going to be impossible for me to do it, as I am enroled in another project for this afternoon and I am going to be busy with it all day".
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Learning to be assertive will certainly make your relationship with other a lot easier.
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